Thursday, October 2, 2008

What they see...

Is what we get! My last post was part of Lelia's study of Lisa Whittle's book "Behind those Eyes." As I finished my post I got to thinking about how I can keep my kids from striving for perfection and instead be the unique individual God created them to be. I posed this question to Lisa and she responded with an answer I expected.

We need to communicate with them, but they also need to see this principle lived out in our lives. Like the saying says, "What they see is what we get!" The timing of these thoughts is quite amazing because I am setting out to obey God in a way I never have before and it's a step that is not going to be easy to take.

In my mind I have went back and forth - do I do what He is calling me to do? or do I let the opportunity pass me by and not rock the boat? The decision wouldn't be so difficult if some of the people I loved the most understood it, but they don't. Which makes this oh so very hard!

But they don't understand because they don't understand my faith. I've shared with them my plans and the response is the same - there's more to life than religion, your kids need more than faith...all things I know are not true. So what do I do?

For the moment, the easy thing would be put on the mask and pretend this opportunity never presented itself. Then I would make the people happy, but I know there's more than that. What about God, the God who knows all things, what would He think? And someday when my kids grow and learn about this what would they think about a mom who told them to live for God, but didn't practice that belief herself?

The answers not something I want to get into, so today I choose to leave the mask behind, step out in faith and be real. After all what they see, is what I will get.


  1. What a great post, Jill!

    I was reading from Psalm 16 this morning, using the NLT and the Message. It talks about how we can joyful at all tmes because we know God is WITH US! He is with you as you take this leap of faith!

  2. Great to see you still applying Tuesday's stuff on Thursday. Things have been busy, so I haven't gotten to read as much as I would like.

    I'm not sure how we pass on to our kids that you don't have to be perfect. Everyone wants to be the winner and that seems to be equated with perfection. Tough question.

  3. Jill,
    I read this post and last about your reflections on the chapter in BTE. I am moved by your transparency and share your desire to encourage our children towards authenticity...not perfection. Thank you for asking that question. It was something I wanted to talk about since someone brought it up at our Wednesday night study!

    Prayed for you by name tonight!
    Lisa :)